I’ve been considering whether or not I should post about this, and have ultimately decided that I believe it to be something I need to share. I love blogging and have big dreams for my little site here, and a big part of someday reaching those dreams is communicating with fellow bloggers and getting links to my site so people actually find me out there in the big interwebs! I enjoy making friends in the blogging community and finding new content to read, while at the same time encouraging others to read what I post.
A problem I did not anticipate is the fact that I am indeed female.
Us Gamer Girls take a fair bit of abuse already simply because we’re female. It’s something one can easily adapt to and ignore, but I doubt many male bloggers have received crude and disgusting sexual comments on their posts (all of which are quickly removed from my site, but are still unpleasant). It’s also a bit more risky for us to “hop on vent” or talk on our headsets while playing CoD without having to endure the ridiculous wrath of some hormonal pre-teen who knows far too many swears. That’s not what this post is about however, but I just wanted to point out that being a female gamer has enough unique challenges already!
Being excluded because I’m female isn’t something I’ve run into since my public school club house days however.
I actually read all the Blogs I include in my Blogroll, and so when one of those Bloggers posted about updating their Blogroll, I read the post and scanned through the updated list for any Blogs I didn’t already recognize. I was a bit confused to notice that I had actually been removed from the updated list. I had been a bit put-off by this Blogger recently because of a few things they’d posted which seemed a bit scamish to me, but I’d kept that totally to myself. The only reason I could think of to merit being kicked from the Blogroll was that I’d removed one comment they’d left on my latest JMTC Blog Carnival entry because they’d just copy and pasted the same comment onto every site that had participated in the carnival, linking to one of his posts and I believe a comment should consist of more than just pressing “ctrl v”. It wasn’t a big deal, I was a bit irked, but I just removed his Blog from my Blogroll and moved on.
But today I got an e-mail.
The Blogger explained that he had two reasons for removing me from his Blog list. The first was that, “You have been deviating from gold making topics”. Of course anyone who reads my blog is well aware that gold making tips make up only a very small portion of my posts, and I have never claimed that this was a “gold blog”. I’m a girl who games, and that is what this blog has always been about.
I could hardly believe the second reason this Blogger gave me for removing me from their list, which was, “your site is obviously ran by a female”. He mentioned that his girlfriend didn’t like him communicating with other women online, which seems a little crazy to me. Does that mean he’s going to remove every comment that is obviously left by a female on his site? He’s also hosting a January Blogging Carnival, so will any obviously female writers be excluded from that as well? I doubt it, as comments and content from females will have some benefit for his site, where as linking to a girl’s site does not.
He also said, “Just wanted to say that no hard feelings for removing you off my blogroll” and there really wasn’t, until he shared his flawed reasoning behind it with me. I’m not simply “QQing” or trying to whine about inequality, I just felt that this situation should be something people are aware of. I have noticed there are significantly less female gamers with blogs than male ones, and this has got me thinking a bit in terms of why that might be.
To all my fellow female gamer Bloggers, seriously /fistbump, and keep it up! E-mail me a link to your site (firstname.lastname@example.org) as I’ll soon be adding a special “Girls Only” section to my blogroll! We have just as much to say as the gamer guys, and other than a few exceptions, people do actually want to read what we post!