Hello Stereotype

Posted February 5th, 2011 by Miss Mediocre

There’s just something about moving home on your 26th birthday that puts a damper on birthday celebrations. It’s like, yaay it’s my birthday I’m getting older and I now live with my mother! I had always prided myself on being a hardcore(ish) gamer who managed to balance gaming and real life. My boyfriend and I lived on our own, we’d go out and have fun, but also spent a lot of time gaming. I’d hear the stereotype of the average (usually male, but still) gamer who was in their 30s living in their mom’s basement playing WoW and think, I am glad that isn’t me! Now my room isn’t in the basement here at my mom’s, but isn’t that always the way?

I won’t go into too much detail as to how I came to live with my mom again, the basic version of the story is that my boyfriend was needed at home and I was more comfortable returning to my home than moving in with his parents and young nieces. I would have loved to stay in my apartment but I didn’t have the funds to do so alone. So here I am, a 26 year old gamer, living upstairs at my mom’s place.

I love gaming and always have and even though spending my days in Azeroth isn’t what landed me here, I can’t help being a little wary of spending too much time on WoW or any game now, if only to avoid that dreaded stereotype… Perhaps once I get used to this change that feeling will dissipate, but currently I can’t help feeling like a failure every time I log in.

My posting schedule has been atrocious so far this year, and this has been why. The decision to move was quickly followed by the move itself and I’ve only been able to get out one other post since moving in here last week. I want that to change, for the sake of my blog if nothing else because I really do love it! I’m just floundering, unsure as to where I should go from this point in my life and so my blog, my toons and my Sim families are all in limbo. I apologize to those of you who had gotten used to me posting daily, and thank you for your patience as I figure things out!

<3 MM

16 Responses to “Hello Stereotype”

  1. Alberthus

    I fell your pain ,but my situation is a little different ,but to sum it up i will just say some key words and wish you good luck in your en devours and that you find happiness.

    33 years old
    lousy pay at job
    lousy country to buy or rent house
    Girlfriend hates computer games
    And yup you guess it still living whit parents,but working to fix it.
    And love games since i got a ZX spectrum 48k for my 12 birthday and arcades o my the money i spend on arcades :)

  2. Miss Mediocre

    Alberthus : /comfort
    Good luck to you as well my fellow Living-at-home-gamer!

  3. Syntalating

    Life happens. Everyone sitting here reading this post, playing WoW, or Cruising Facebook has things happen in real life. You are not alone, nor In my opinion should you let once Facet of real life problems affect things that you enjoy participating in online (and vice versa). At the end of the day if you can say was it a good day ? “why yes, I killed Cho’gall!” or similarly answer “yes! I helped mom around the house” then everything might not be perfect, but things are still ok, and as long as you can wake up and look at yourself in the mirror in the morning, things will be fine :)

    Best of Luck!

  4. Nevyn

    I don’t quite live at home but my Mum lives across the road & washes up the dishes when she pops in for coffee. We also eat over there at least twice a week & I see her everyday. She probably nags me more now than she ever did when I was at home!

    I’m 45, I too had a spectrum 48k & later an Amiga 1200 – I actually stayed up for two days straight playing Settlers many moons ago. I ruled the bus station cafe on Galaxians at 16 & Mr Do at the pub when I was 18 :) So I guess I’ve always been a gamer too.

    You’re not a failure just because you couldn’t afford the rent on your own & actually, it’s rather admirable that you guys have rallied around family when it’s needed, even if it’s totally turned your own lives upside down. I’d say get in game girl, you need some fantasy time to wind down & sod the stereotypes!

  5. Alberthus

    The 30′is gamer that lives in is mom basement why do people consider him a failure ? Maybe because people do not understand what they do not know,he is happy doing what he does so why should he care about what other think?

    Me maybe like you, and all others here writing this lines ,are happy whit what we do, might it be gaming, blogging whatever we do this because we love to,because it make us happy, but life its not all about gamming (we wished its was sometimes )but lot more ,so any gammer for me that does what he likes best its not a failure no mater what people say ,we are what we are.

    I sincerely hope you find peace and happiness,may it be online or offline in real life .
    Best wishes form a complete stranger ,the internet is a funny place we talk whit anyone and about anything even things we do not have the courage to talk face to face whit others . :)

    /Me trows happiness and Luck to miss M

  6. Kreigor

    Ive done the living-with-parents thing. Moved out, moved back for one reason or another, now back out. It can be a pretty awkward time. I used to always feel odd when I would pull a marathon gaming session at my parents, specially when it was like they went to bed and I was still playing when they woke up.

    Eventually, they just came to understand that I was doing what I liked doing. It took a long time to get my parents to understand that WoW was alot more then a game. But now when I visit my parents, they ask how my guild is doing, how my raids go, if Im still playing such and such character. They dont really care that I got my 2 piece tier, they just know its important to me.

    You’ll find your comfort zone with home life and WoW. It takes a bit.

  7. QuietKjun

    Happy belated Birthday. Sorry it didn’t occur under better circumstances.

    Try to look at the move as a positive, instead of negative. Your family loves you enough to let you move back in. You still have the freedom to play games or do whatever you want. And, you can move out again whenever the situation becomes better.

    I hope you continue to play WoW. Your readers really miss your posts!

  8. DeMeNtEd

    sry to hear about ur setback, sometimes change can be hard but that doesnt always make it bad. dont worry about the stereotype, stereotypes are dumb anyway. just keep focusing on the things u love and no matter what you will be happy. oh yea! happy late b-day hope the cake was delicious =p …i prefer carrot cake with cream cheese ice cream =) whats ur ultimate fav? …besides lucky choco cake

  9. Miss Mediocre

    Syntalating : Thank you for your encouraging comment :) As I’m getting settled here I’m working gaming into my daily routine a bit more and feeling less guilty about it!

  10. Miss Mediocre

    Nevyn : Lol, it has been a nice change living here and no longer having to do my own dishes! Moms are great for that :) Thank you for your comment, both my boyfriend and I do have really great, supportive families and it is good that he was ready to help out when they needed, and my family was ready to help me move and let me move in when I needed. :)

  11. Miss Mediocre

    Alberthus : Thank you :) It is unfortunate that the stereotype tends to suggest that lifestyle is one of failure, but you make a good point. If gaming makes us happy it’s not really fair to deem that a failure. :)

  12. Miss Mediocre

    Kreigor : I definitely feel a bit awkward when they are waking up and I’m still playing, though that has only happened once so far, lol. My mom does her best to understand WoW’s importance I think, she likes that I not only spend my time playing, I also use those experiences in game to write on here and she’s always encouraged me to write. Hopefully she’ll get a little more comfortable with me playing as much as I like to, and I will feel less guilty doing so. :)

  13. Miss Mediocre

    QuietKjun : Thank you!

    I am starting to see the move in a bit more of a positive light now that I am getting settled. It seems to be good for me as I can play WoW, but still eat regular meals and interact with people daily, which sometimes I would forget if I got into doing something in game while living on my own, lol. I have been playing a good amount the last few days, so with any luck my regular posting will resume shortly! :)

  14. Miss Mediocre

    DeMeNtEd : Thank you for the birthday wishes! My cake was awesome, chocolate with chocolate icing is what I had and what my favorite is, hehe.

    Stereotypes are dumb, but sometimes it’s so hard to ignore them! Change and I tend to not get along, but I’m working at it and things are getting easier here! :)

  15. Rivs

    I moved out of my parents when I was 18, though I had roommates, most of the recent years I had my own place.

    My mother is handicapped, and my stepdad had a stroke last year in which he is paralyzed on the left side of his body. I had to move in with my mother to help them out.

    Though it is a good cause, and I know I did the right thing, and would never change my decision.

    But it’s hard for me to tell girls I live with my Mom, after being so independent for all those years. I’m afraid that I’ll end up dressing like a women, and killing chicks in a motel a la Psycho

  16. Miss Mediocre

    Rivs : That’s very admirable of you to give up your space and freedom to help your mom and step-dad like that when they needed you! I imagine that must have been a rough change to have to go through, it’s taking time for me to get adjusted here and I’m not any kind of caregiver other than the odd hour babysitting my little step-sister now and then.

    I wouldn’t worry too much about telling girls because I think such a trait is rare and pretty amazing, unless you counter it by killing chicks anyway… :)

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